Wednesday, May 31, 2023




“Can you remember who you were before the

world told you who you should be?”  Charles Bukowski

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s

life. Don’t be trapped by dogma - which is living with the

results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of

others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most

important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.” Steve Jobs

“Only when we forget what we were taught

do we start to have real knowledge.” Henry David Thoreau

We have our own free will; we should use it. Either we choose who we

are, or the world will tell us who we should be. We have a choice; we

can choose which path we will follow. We can choose the outcome,

or we can let others choose our outcome for us, but we do get to

decide. If we fail to exercise our choices; society will choose for us.

If we choose not to make our own decisions, society will decide for

us. If we do not decide how to use our time, others will tell us. If we

choose not to decide what to think or believe others will tell us. Think

for yourself, not of yourself. Think of others, not for others.

Friday, May 26, 2023




"Being yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make

you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”

                                                                        Ralph Waldo Emerson

You are quite unique and that is quite good enough.

Society in general by its very nature of the system is built to churn

out uniform parts for a uniform system. Uniformity. Another cog in the

wheel of the machine that churns forward. Be the squeaky wheel. Be

the flywheel. Make your own way on your own path. Think outside the

box. Think freely. Think creatively. Be original. Learn from the past.

Observe. Pay attention. Watch others. Take it all in, then combine that

with your own skills, talent, uniqueness, free spirit and make it better.

Make it your own. Free yourself up to be your own person. Do what

you and you alone were built to do. Do what is interesting to you.

Never conform to what others think. Never conform to social pressures.

Never let others define your values. You were born unique. Be your

natural self. Do what comes naturally. Be your true self. Play to your

strengths. Your value comes from who you are. You were created

perfectly for a purpose. We are all here to contribute to our community

and to serve others. To serve our higher purpose, we must cultivate

and grow what is unique about us. Work at improving our skills that

fit with our unique spirit and purpose.

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Thursday, May 18, 2023

The Shit I Wished I Learned In College

Finally Published My First Book!

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 Harness the life lessons handed down from generation to generation and discover pearls of wisdom that can help you lead your most authentic life.

Whether you’re a college student or are fully immersed in the daily grind of the workforce, chances are, you feel like you have too many glasses to fill.

Social media, influencers, and celebrities paint a gilded portrait of what the good life is—and it usually involves money, status, and fame.

You work so hard to achieve these things that you can risk losing sight of your destiny and your passions.

You have a unique journey to complete—and nobody knows how to get to your destination better than yourself.

Life is all short and fleeting. If you have loved anyone or anything and lost it, then you know how arbitrary, unexpected, and plain shocking life events can be.

It is precisely in the face of your biggest challenges and losses that a deep sense of awakening arises—and you realize that happiness is impossible if you keep trying to live by everyone else’s standards.

Consider this book to be a manual for life; one with a myriad of timeless messages you can pick and choose as you desire, put your own imprint upon, and come back to over the years.

It encourages you to live by your values and be true to yourself. Within its pages, you will discover:

  • Why your uniqueness is something to be celebrated and harnessed when you are trying to work out your life’s purpose
  • Why virtues and values like honesty, acceptance, and embracing the legacy left behind by loved ones are non-negotiable if you wish to live a happy life
  • The K.I.S.S. approach to working out your authentic wants and needs—and how to strike the right balance between success and personal freedom
  • How to find your inner resilience, focus on your goals, and keep moving—even when motivation is hard to find
  • How to live in the present moment—change can be scary, but it can also lead to growth, discovery, and unexpected happiness
  • Why persistence, the brick-by-brick approach, and keeping your eye on the end game are key if you wish to transform your work from boring to extraordinary
  • Why doing good is a way of acknowledging and celebrating our common humanity
  • The vital role that nature plays in our physical and mental health and well-being
  • Important checklists to live by—including the 10 steps to freedom and flat-ass rules that cannot be denied
  • Witty, inspiring, beautiful words that can raise your spirits when you’re feeling down or doubting yourself

And much more.

Life can be wondrous, but it also throws a host of challenges in your path. You cannot evade these obstacles, nor can you avoid disappointment or loss.

However, you are in full control of how you process and deal with these circumstances. By living according to your core values, you can stay positive, keep your eye on the prize, and continue to celebrate the beauty of life, with all its chaos and unpredictability.

Friday, January 20, 2023



Other people can make us “feel bad” but only if we let them. We retain control over our feelings, thoughts, and emotions. They are ours. If we feel a certain way, “sad,” “happy”, “angry”, it is because we choose to feel that way. People may do things all the time that affect us, how we react to those things or “feel” about them is up to us. We can experience whatever feelings bubble up to the surface, then let them go or re-channel those feelings into something productive. Put a different label on them. Soak them in. Savor it. Feel them. Then let it let it go. We control how we feel, so why make ourselves feel miserable, angry, upset or any way we really do not want to feel inside? We can feel certain emotions because of our own actions, regret, guilt, remorse, pride, joy, satisfaction. We can share those feelings with others. No one else has the right or the power to make us feel anything we do not want to feel. That is our power.

Thursday, February 25, 2021



If we are not excited about it, its not the right path. Abraham Hicks

Sometimes we step in a puddle, slip on the ice, trip over a rock on our trail, fall off our bikes, ride the wave on surfboards then find ourselves underwater, or we are flying high down that double black diamond cruising through that turn when we catch an edge and wipe out spectacularly. At times we go down harder than others on the path and journey of life. But we always get back up dust ourselves off and keep going. We may at times need to alter our path we are on, head down a different path or keep buggering on steadfastly down the path we started. We will eventually get to the clearing or open meadow and say wow! What a view, pause, reflect, look around, enjoy the beauty, soak up the feeling and then we say let's do that again! Maybe we head off to another peak on the next mountain range but we just keep going and when we do stop and look back we just might realize the best part was the struggles where we picked ourselves up after the fall.

Wednesday, February 24, 2021




There are very few things we can control. We can control how we choose to see things. How we choose to react to things. We cannot always control what happens to us or around us, but we can control how we react to it. We can control our point of view. We can control how we feel. How we see the world. How we react to circumstances around us. We can prepare. We can train. We can get in the arena. We can just get started. We can get out of our comfort zones. We can get on the surfboard and be riding the wave, then we may find ourselves underwater. Relax, accept it, rely on your physical and mental training and the wave will pass over us. We know what we must do. Do our best. Do the work. We cannot always control the stimulus, but we can control our response. We can control our own behavior, our own actions and reactions. We must focus on what is within our control and let go of what we cannot control. That is what other people do and think, that is their choice. Do what we can do and do it well in line with our virtues and values.

Tuesday, February 23, 2021




What good does getting ourselves all worked up or angry over something or what someone said do us? A little righteous indignation over an injustice can be a good thing and anger can be a useful tool at the right time and place and when used in the right way to help keep us focused and on track when we need the fuel. But when we feel the anger boiling up within us or we feel ourselves getting worked up that is not the time to burst out or boil over. Save that feeling and energy for when we need it. Practice restraint. Exercise patience. Say hello their anger, I recognize you and I welcome you but now is not the time there will be a time later but not now. Let's move on together or try a different path for now. Then coolly calmly collectively calculate your path and plan and prepare for the future. We may just find the anger goes away or we overreacted for no good reason or we were mistaken. It also helps not to take everything personally because it's not always about us.