Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: PATIENCE

Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: PATIENCE:                                                          “The key to everything is patience. You get the chicken by hatching the egg, not by...

PATIENCE

                                             

“The key to everything is patience. You get the

chicken by hatching the egg, not by smashing it.”

                    Arnold H. Glasow

Patience is a virtue. It has been said good things come to those who

wait. Patience is a wonderful trait, but also must be balanced with

the need to push on or push through when the situation requires it.

Patience does not mean just sitting back and hoping for something

“good” to happen to you or fall in your lap. First comes the work, the

planning, preparation, practice. Getting started. Setting the wheels

in motion, then being patient that the fruits of our labor will blossom.

Not unlike a farmer who spends significant effort preparing soil for

crops. Planting crops, then waiting for the bounty to grow. This of

course requires patience for the crop to grow, but so too must the

farmer tend to his fields, particularly if there is adverse weather or

unexpected developments. Passivity and patience are not the same

thing. Sometimes the pot needs to be stirred or mixed up, or others

need to some “encouragement” to act. But patience is an important

skill and mindset for sure. So, too, is the ability to know when to be

patient and when it is time to push.

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Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: Words

Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: Words:   “Be mindful when it comes to your words. A string of some that don’t mean much to you, may stick with someone else for a lifetime.”       ...

Words

 

“Be mindful when it comes to your words. A

string of some that don’t mean much to you, may

stick with someone else for a lifetime.”

                    Rachel Wolchin

Words have power. Words can be beautiful and uplifting. Words can

hurt. Words can sting. Words can leave a permanent stain on a relationship.

Sometimes the damage done by our words is obvious and

we immediately regret what we said as soon as the words come out of

our mouth, or we hit the send button on the text or email. Sometimes it

is not so clear, but the damage is not any less and probably is greater

for our not being able to recognize the damage our words have done to others. Choose your words

 wisely. Think before you speak. Some things are better left unsaid. Never gossip. Recognize when

 there is no need to stir the pot with your words

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WORKED UP

 

“Dear self, Don’t get worked up over things you can’t change,

or people you can’t change. It’s not worth the anger build

up or the headache. Control only what you can. Let go.”  Unknown

What good is getting ourselves all worked up or angry over something

or what someone said to us? A little righteous indignation over an

injustice can be a good thing and anger can be a useful tool at the

right time and place and when used in the right way to help keep us

focused and on track when we need the fuel. But when we feel the

anger boiling up within us or we feel ourselves getting worked up that

is not the time to burst out or boil over. Save that feeling and energy

for when we need it. Practice restraint. Exercise patience. Say hello

there anger, I recognize you and I welcome you but now is not the

time there will be a time later but not now. Let us move on together or

try a different path for now. Then coolly calmly collectively calculate

your path and plan and prepare for the future. We may just find the

anger goes away or we overreacted for no good reason, or we were

mistaken. It also helps not to take everything personally because it’s

not always about us.

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Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: VOICES

Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: VOICES:   “The more faithfully you listen to the voices within you, the better you will hear what is sounding outside.”                             ...

VOICES

 

“The more faithfully you listen to the voices within you,

the better you will hear what is sounding outside.”

                                                    Dag Hammarskjold

We often hear voices. Those voices in our head. Sometimes they can

be weird or bizarre “thoughts.” Other times they can be invigorating,

joyous, inspiring thoughts or “voices.” Sometimes it is helpful to picture

these voices or thoughts as coming from a little angel or devil on your

shoulder depending on whether the thought is one, we know is “right”

or positive (angel) or when we know is “wrong” or negative (devil). In

this way it helps make it easier to do the right thing and avoid doing

the wrong thing. Rarely do the angel and devil show up at the same

time. It is usually one or the other. This can make it a little more

difficult to make the right choice because there is no internal debate

going on. It is all one sided. All we hear is that voice inside our head

trying to convince us it is OK, just this once, or trying to deceive us or

challenge our core beliefs and values. It is OK to hear this voice, let

it speak, then ignore it and do the right thing. If we did not have our

demons, we would not have our angels. Steer clear of what we really

know to be wrong.

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Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: HOW WE REACT

Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: HOW WE REACT:   HOW WE REACT “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”                                  Charles R. Swindoll It’s not ...

HOW WE REACT

 

HOW WE REACT

“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”

                                Charles R. Swindoll

It’s not what happens to us, but it’s how we react that matters. What

is going to happen is going to happen. It is outside our control. Fate,

destiny, divine power, predetermined plan, nature, whatever name

we choose, “it is what it is.” What is going to be is going to be. We

can certainly shape our own destiny or steer ourselves down a path.

But there will always be “stuff” that happens. There are so many

things other people choose to do that are out of our control. What we

can control is our own point of view, our perspective, our reaction,

our dreams, our attitude, our lens we see the world through. How

we choose to react to the stuff that happens “outside us”: is always

our choice. What really matters is the stuff that happens “inside us.”

How we choose to act, react, see things, how we feel. Our values,

our virtues, our “thoughts.” Look at all the horrible, abhorrent misery

bestowed on people through no fault of their own. Look at the horrible

Holocaust. Yet, out of that came a man named Viktor Frankel. Who

taught us we always have a choice of how we see things, and no one

can take that choice away from us. No one. We may not be able to

control all that happens “out there,” but we can control what happens

“in here”. One thing no one can ever take from us is our mind, our

thoughts, our choice, our point of view. It is mine!

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Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: SELFISHNESS

Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: SELFISHNESS:   “Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice, and is never the result of selfishness.”                                           ...

SELFISHNESS

 

“Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice,

and is never the result of selfishness.”

                                            Napoleon Hill

There are times where we act like a selfish asshole. A spoiled brat.

Me first attitude. Sometimes we must be that person to push forward.

A little selfishness is good, as we must take care of ourselves before

we can help other people. If we hit the pause button and think for a

moment, we could carry the attitude that others come first not only

in our personal lives but in the broader life perspective. Mentally we

feel better when we put others first. We must look at how we translate

putting others first into everyday life. We are balancing the need to

take care of ourselves. Just maybe we could make more of an effort to

put other people first. That is not to say that we ignore taking care of

ourselves. We must take care of ourselves, so we are in a better position

to take care of others. Taking care of ourselves first means always

learning, staying curious, exercising, sleeping, eating well. These are

areas to protect and be selfish. Remembering to help others is more

in line with the spirit of giving and is a much happier and rewarding

place to be when you put the people you love first.

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Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: ANGER

Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: ANGER: “The best revenge is massive success.”                                                   Frank Sinatra What good does anger do us? Does it r...

ANGER

“The best revenge is massive success.”

                                        Frank Sinatra

What good does anger do us? Does it really get us anywhere? Does

it just make us feel bad? Nothing productive or good ever comes out

of being mad. This only leads to trouble. It just creates stress, and

usually results in us saying or doing something rash, creating more

misery and stress for us. Anger can be a positive thing when controlled

and used in the right way. This is in our control. We choose how we

react. We choose how we respond. We can use our anger to fuel our

focus. Fuel our perseverance. Fuel our desire to do something. We

can talk to our anger and say, “hello there anger I see you; I feel you;

I hear you, but not right now, stay calm, stay focused, and I will use

you in the right way at the right time.” Revenge is a dish best served

cold. The best revenge is to not be like that other person. We could

be angry for the wrong reasons. We are mistaken. We did not have

all the facts. We do not know the full story. We need to see things

from the other person’s point of view. Being angry means, we care,

but we need to be careful to use our anger in the right way. Every

now and then a little righteous indignation can be a good thing to do

something about an injustice.

Find a way to use our anger. Find an outlet to let it go or do

something positive. Like a lot of things in life, avoiding a negative or

avoiding trouble keeps us ahead in the game. Frustration and anger.

They are different, but they are intertwined and neither of them are

good for us. They are natural. We will feel frustration and anger. But it

also depends on our point of view. How we choose to deal with it when

it creeps up its ugly head. I prefer to leave it on the roadside, the trail,

hill repeats, walking, exercise. Let it go. Let it be. It is toxic, leading to

stress and regret. Sometimes though, there is a time in place for it.

A little righteous indignation can be a good thing if it leads us to well

contemplated, thought-out conscientious action. But usually never in

an impulse reaction. Therefore, we should never hastily respond to

an email or someone’s outburst in kind. Pause, reflect, contemplate.

We could be wrong. Mistaken. Off-point. This is a learning experience

for us. Anger does not advance one’s cause. We get more with honey

than vinegar. As anger bubbles up, let it bubble, but do not let it steam.

Calm. Cool. Collected. Restraint. Do not respond in kind. Delete.

Let it go. Move on. It will pass and you will forget. Chances are you

are not “angry” at the correct situation, there is something else going

on in the background.

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Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: THANK YOU AND GRATITUDE

Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: THANK YOU AND GRATITUDE:   “Practicing gratitude is a very powerful tool to shift your attention on the things you don’t have to the things you do have and this alon...

THANK YOU AND GRATITUDE

 

“Practicing gratitude is a very powerful tool to shift your

attention on the things you don’t have to the things you

do have and this alone will make you feel better.”

                                        Noelia Aanulds

Always send a thank you note. No deed, favor, or something helpful that

someone else does for us should go unthanked. Always send a written

thank you note, real paper is best, but an email will do. Send something

to thank someone who did something for you, gave you something or

just took time from their lives to do something for you or for your benefit.

Make the note personal and specific. This is part of just being humble,

kind, and grateful. It takes a little time and the person you are sending

the note will be extremely appreciative. It will make them feel good and

they will remember the kind of person you are for taking the time to write

to them and thank them for their hard work. They will also be reminded

that they themselves need to send out thank you notes when someone

does something kind or beneficial for them. The gratitude keeps rolling.

Everyone is better because you sent a thank you note.

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Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: BE PREPARED BE HONEST

Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: BE PREPARED BE HONEST:   “Be prepared. Be honest.” -- John Wooden Preparation and honesty make our lives so much more rewarding and stress free. When we prepare an...

BE PREPARED BE HONEST

 

“Be prepared. Be honest.” --John Wooden

Preparation and honesty make our lives so much more rewarding

and stress free. When we prepare and when we are truthful our confidence

goes up and our stress and anxiety go down. We know we are

doing our best and doing the right thing. When we are unprepared

our stress goes up and confidence goes down. We worry. We “feel”

bad. We know we could do better. We feel regret. Remorse sets in.

We get lackluster results. When we are untruthful this just creates a

deeper hole, we find ourselves in. We lose the trust of others. People

take a different point of view of us. We feel bad because we know

deep down, we should just tell the truth. Being untruthful creates more

stress, more anxiety, more worry, leads to more untruths or deceit. It

lengthens the time we must worry about what is going to happen. So

why not just be prepared and tell the truth?

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Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: HONESTY

Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: HONESTY: “Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.”                                                   Thomas Jefferson Honesty is the best...

HONESTY

“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom.”

                                        Thomas Jefferson

Honesty is the best policy. Like a lot of things when we are honest, we

do not think much of it because it is simply the right thing to do. Like a

hangover though, dishonesty makes us feel miserable about ourselves

and this should be a feeling we want to avoid. Honesty means total

honesty. Openness, not half-truths, partial truths, or embellishment.

Be honest. Be honest with others. Be honest with yourself. We create

unnecessary stress for ourselves when we are dishonest, evasive,

or not forthcoming. Being honest is one of the things we have total

control over. We choose what we want to say or how we want to act.

Do we want to feel good about ourselves or do we want to feel guilty,

filled with regret? We choose. Be honest.

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Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: Principles Do Not Change

Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: Principles Do Not Change:                                                                          “Do the right thing, do the best you can, and always show people yo...

Principles Do Not Change

                                                          

“Do the right thing, do the best you can, and always show people you care.” --Lou Holtz

Do the right thing! While I have not counted, it is probably the most

repeated phrase in Marcus Aurelius’ timeless Meditations. Robert

Kennedy used to always tell his kids at the dinner table, be guided by

principles, not ambition. We get blinded by ambition. Lose sight of our

values. Principles. Virtues. As we look at the prize. Win at all costs. That

phrase could not be more off the mark because if we compromise our

principles and values to “win”, we lose. We may think we have won a

battle, but we lost the war with ourselves. I am not talking about flat out

cheating like performance enhancing drugs in sports, we know that is

wrong. I mean bending even on the “little things” and thinking the end

justifies the means. It does not. In the end, all we have is our character

and reputation. More to the point, how we feel about ourselves. We

must always peer into the window of ourselves. In the mirror. Stare at

ourselves in the mirror and we better love what we see staring back at us.

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Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: TRUTH

Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: TRUTH:   “Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now-always.”                                                   Albert Sweitzer “In a wo...

TRUTH

 

“Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now-always.”

                                        Albert Sweitzer

“In a world of deceit, telling the truth is revolutionary.”

                                        George Orwell

“Truth does not change according to our

ability to stomach it emotionally.”

                                        Flannery O’Conner

The truth is disarming. Why is it that at times it is so difficult to be

completely truthful? Not partly truthful, not half-truths, not necessarily

outright dishonesty or lying, but untruthful by omission. Failure

to disclose everything. Hiding the ball. The irony is, being truthful is

revolutionary. Being truthful is disarming. Being truthful is unexpected.

Being truthful, people do not know how to react. The default position

is they do not believe you. Still, we must tell the truth. Your word is

your word. Guard it.

At times it may feel harder, but it is always easier to just tell the

truth. This means the whole truth. No exaggeration. No hidden little

secrets. It just feels better in the end, and it is the right thing to do.

Conversely, not telling the truth, the little white lie, being deceitful,

exaggerating or trying to manipulate just creates stress, tension, and

headaches. The cost of being untruthful far outweighs any harm that

may come from telling the truth. The benefits of telling the truth far

outweigh the cost of being untruthful. When we add in our character,

being truthful versus untruthful, our words, how we feel about

ourselves, the truth always wins. But when we tell the lie, it is difficult

to remember exactly what was said before. It is the snowball effect,

the mischief and trouble just keep growing and growing, the hole just

keeps getting deeper and deeper. Do the right thing. Stay on the right

path. Tell the truth.

“When we tell the truth, we do not have to remember

what we said before because the truth is in us.”

                                        Mark Twain

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