Jaime Jackson Safety Blog
Helping Make our Communities Safer. Jaime is a Trial Attorney and Safety Advocate at Jaime Jackson Law in Lancaster, PA representing seriously injured victims, wrongful death and those harmed by unsafe products and corporate neglect. Contact Jaime at 717-519-7254 or email jaime@jaimejacksonlaw.com.
Friday, March 15, 2024
Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: HOW WE REACT
HOW WE REACT
HOW WE REACT
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
Charles R. Swindoll
It’s not what happens to us, but it’s how we react that matters. What
is going to happen is going to happen. It is outside our control. Fate,
destiny, divine power, predetermined plan, nature, whatever name
we choose, “it is what it is.” What is going to be is going to be. We
can certainly shape our own destiny or steer ourselves down a path.
But there will always be “stuff” that happens. There are so many
things other people choose to do that are out of our control. What we
can control is our own point of view, our perspective, our reaction,
our dreams, our attitude, our lens we see the world through. How
we choose to react to the stuff that happens “outside us”: is always
our choice. What really matters is the stuff that happens “inside us.”
How we choose to act, react, see things, how we feel. Our values,
our virtues, our “thoughts.” Look at all the horrible, abhorrent misery
bestowed on people through no fault of their own. Look at the horrible
Holocaust. Yet, out of that came a man named Viktor Frankel. Who
taught us we always have a choice of how we see things, and no one
can take that choice away from us. No one. We may not be able to
control all that happens “out there,” but we can control what happens
“in here”. One thing no one can ever take from us is our mind, our
thoughts, our choice, our point of view. It is mine!
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Saturday, March 2, 2024
Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: SELFISHNESS
SELFISHNESS
“Great achievement is usually born of great sacrifice,
and is never the result of selfishness.”
Napoleon Hill
There are times where we act like a selfish asshole. A spoiled brat.
Me first attitude. Sometimes we must be that person to push forward.
A little selfishness is good, as we must take care of ourselves before
we can help other people. If we hit the pause button and think for a
moment, we could carry the attitude that others come first not only
in our personal lives but in the broader life perspective. Mentally we
feel better when we put others first. We must look at how we translate
putting others first into everyday life. We are balancing the need to
take care of ourselves. Just maybe we could make more of an effort to
put other people first. That is not to say that we ignore taking care of
ourselves. We must take care of ourselves, so we are in a better position
to take care of others. Taking care of ourselves first means always
learning, staying curious, exercising, sleeping, eating well. These are
areas to protect and be selfish. Remembering to help others is more
in line with the spirit of giving and is a much happier and rewarding
place to be when you put the people you love first.
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Friday, February 23, 2024
Jaime Jackson Safety Blog: ANGER
ANGER
“The best revenge is massive success.”
Frank Sinatra
What good does anger do us? Does it really get us anywhere? Does
it just make us feel bad? Nothing productive or good ever comes out
of being mad. This only leads to trouble. It just creates stress, and
usually results in us saying or doing something rash, creating more
misery and stress for us. Anger can be a positive thing when controlled
and used in the right way. This is in our control. We choose how we
react. We choose how we respond. We can use our anger to fuel our
focus. Fuel our perseverance. Fuel our desire to do something. We
can talk to our anger and say, “hello there anger I see you; I feel you;
I hear you, but not right now, stay calm, stay focused, and I will use
you in the right way at the right time.” Revenge is a dish best served
cold. The best revenge is to not be like that other person. We could
be angry for the wrong reasons. We are mistaken. We did not have
all the facts. We do not know the full story. We need to see things
from the other person’s point of view. Being angry means, we care,
but we need to be careful to use our anger in the right way. Every
now and then a little righteous indignation can be a good thing to do
something about an injustice.
Find a way to use our anger. Find an outlet to let it go or do
something positive. Like a lot of things in life, avoiding a negative or
avoiding trouble keeps us ahead in the game. Frustration and anger.
They are different, but they are intertwined and neither of them are
good for us. They are natural. We will feel frustration and anger. But it
also depends on our point of view. How we choose to deal with it when
it creeps up its ugly head. I prefer to leave it on the roadside, the trail,
hill repeats, walking, exercise. Let it go. Let it be. It is toxic, leading to
stress and regret. Sometimes though, there is a time in place for it.
A little righteous indignation can be a good thing if it leads us to well
contemplated, thought-out conscientious action. But usually never in
an impulse reaction. Therefore, we should never hastily respond to
an email or someone’s outburst in kind. Pause, reflect, contemplate.
We could be wrong. Mistaken. Off-point. This is a learning experience
for us. Anger does not advance one’s cause. We get more with honey
than vinegar. As anger bubbles up, let it bubble, but do not let it steam.
Calm. Cool. Collected. Restraint. Do not respond in kind. Delete.
Let it go. Move on. It will pass and you will forget. Chances are you
are not “angry” at the correct situation, there is something else going
on in the background.
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