ANGER

“The best revenge is massive success.”

                                        Frank Sinatra

What good does anger do us? Does it really get us anywhere? Does

it just make us feel bad? Nothing productive or good ever comes out

of being mad. This only leads to trouble. It just creates stress, and

usually results in us saying or doing something rash, creating more

misery and stress for us. Anger can be a positive thing when controlled

and used in the right way. This is in our control. We choose how we

react. We choose how we respond. We can use our anger to fuel our

focus. Fuel our perseverance. Fuel our desire to do something. We

can talk to our anger and say, “hello there anger I see you; I feel you;

I hear you, but not right now, stay calm, stay focused, and I will use

you in the right way at the right time.” Revenge is a dish best served

cold. The best revenge is to not be like that other person. We could

be angry for the wrong reasons. We are mistaken. We did not have

all the facts. We do not know the full story. We need to see things

from the other person’s point of view. Being angry means, we care,

but we need to be careful to use our anger in the right way. Every

now and then a little righteous indignation can be a good thing to do

something about an injustice.

Find a way to use our anger. Find an outlet to let it go or do

something positive. Like a lot of things in life, avoiding a negative or

avoiding trouble keeps us ahead in the game. Frustration and anger.

They are different, but they are intertwined and neither of them are

good for us. They are natural. We will feel frustration and anger. But it

also depends on our point of view. How we choose to deal with it when

it creeps up its ugly head. I prefer to leave it on the roadside, the trail,

hill repeats, walking, exercise. Let it go. Let it be. It is toxic, leading to

stress and regret. Sometimes though, there is a time in place for it.

A little righteous indignation can be a good thing if it leads us to well

contemplated, thought-out conscientious action. But usually never in

an impulse reaction. Therefore, we should never hastily respond to

an email or someone’s outburst in kind. Pause, reflect, contemplate.

We could be wrong. Mistaken. Off-point. This is a learning experience

for us. Anger does not advance one’s cause. We get more with honey

than vinegar. As anger bubbles up, let it bubble, but do not let it steam.

Calm. Cool. Collected. Restraint. Do not respond in kind. Delete.

Let it go. Move on. It will pass and you will forget. Chances are you

are not “angry” at the correct situation, there is something else going

on in the background.

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